Over the past decade, there has been a significant increase in the recognition and diagnosis of neurodivergent conditions such as ADHD, Dyslexia, Sensory Processing Disorder, and other cognitive differences. Studies indicate that global diagnoses of neurodivergence have increased, with research highlighting that more individuals are now identified as neurodivergent due to improved awareness and screening methods.
But why this sudden rise? Research suggests several contributing factors:
- Greater Awareness & Improved Diagnostic Tools – Clinicians now recognize a wider spectrum of neurodivergent traits, leading to more accurate diagnoses.
- Environmental and Genetic Influences – Studies suggest prenatal and early childhood environmental factors, as well as hereditary links, play a role.
- Reduced Stigma – With increased advocacy, more individuals feel comfortable seeking assessments and support.
How Neurodivergence Affects Families and Relationships
Living with or loving a neurodivergent individual introduces unique challenges and strengths within relationships. Families often experience heightened emotional intensity, communication difficulties, and the need for additional structure. Common themes include:
- Emotional Misalignment: A neurotypical partner or parent may struggle to understand sensory sensitivities, social anxiety, or hyperfocus tendencies.
- Parental Burnout: Raising a neurodivergent child often requires extensive emotional and logistical support, leading to stress and exhaustion.
- Relationship Struggles: Misinterpretations of social cues, impulsivity, and executive functioning challenges can create friction in partnerships.
While these dynamics can be difficult, understanding and adapting can strengthen relationships. Many families find that embracing neurodivergence leads to deeper compassion, patience, and creativity in problem-solving.
Then vs. Now: How Our Understanding Has Evolved
A decade ago, neurodivergent conditions were often misunderstood and misdiagnosed. Labels such as “troublemaker” (for ADHD) or “withdrawn” (for neurodivergent individuals) were common, and many individuals went undiagnosed well into adulthood. Today, the medical and psychological fields recognize that neurodivergence is not a deficit but a difference in brain functioning. Emphasis has shifted towards strength-based approaches that value neurodivergent individuals’ unique abilities rather than solely focusing on challenges.
First Encounters: How to Respond to a Neurodivergent Person
If you are interacting with a neurodivergent individual for the first time, here are key things to remember:
- What NOT to Do:
- Do not dismiss their experiences as “overreacting.”
- Avoid forcing eye contact or social interaction.
- Refrain from saying, “You don’t look neurodivergent,” as this invalidates their experience.
- What to Do Instead:
- Offer patience and flexibility.
- Respect their sensory needs (e.g., avoiding overwhelming environments).
- Communicate clearly and directly.
When to Seek Professional Support
If you or a loved one struggles with relationship challenges, sensory overwhelm, anxiety, or emotional dysregulation due to neurodivergence, therapy can provide valuable support. Seeking professional help does not mean something is “wrong”—it means you are taking a proactive step toward understanding and thriving.
As a clinical psychologist based in Somerset West, I have spent countless hours in therapy sessions exploring the complexities of neurodivergence. I have seen firsthand how it can derail relationships, yet also how, with the right support, individuals and families can navigate these challenges successfully.
Let’s Talk – Book a Session
If you’re wondering whether therapy could help, let’s start with a conversation. Reach out to me, Christel Maritz, for an appointment where we can explore your concerns and see if therapy is the right fit for you.
📧 Email me at cmaritz67@gmail.com to book your session today.
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